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Farewell to Los Angeles (+ Happy July 4th!)

Since I’ve been pretty busy packing and getting ready for my big move, I haven’t had a chance to blog much, but wanted to share this last blog before I leave. I can’t believe it is my last month here in Los Angeles already! Although it didn’t always feel like it during these past few months, time really has flown by.

I’ll be flying out on July 30th, spending a few days on the east coast, before arriving in Norway on August 4th. Most of the things I have to prepare for my move has already been done, I have packed and my apartment is full of boxes. This is driving me a little crazy, as I keep stumbling over them, but hopefully I can get them shipped off soon, and it will be a little bit easier to move around. Still have to sell all my furniture and my car, but once that’s done, I’ll be home free. 🙂

Most of the heaviness and difficulty of this transition is behind me though, and now I am feeling excited to be going. Can’t wait to get to Norway, and catch up with everyone, and get started with my life there!

While I have been getting ready, I have still continued to work on myself though, as I’m still experiencing so much transformation and a deepening of my connection to Spirit and my Higher Self. The energies have been pretty intense the last couple of weeks, especially over summer solstice. Since I am taking a break from my own spiritual work, I have been able to deepen my own practices even more, and have also been participating in some online trainings and webinars. I did a chakra upgrade transmission for the summer solstice that was very powerful. Felt a bit vulnerable the next couple of days after doing it, but since then I have noticed quite a few shifts.

The new moon in Cancer that came upon us a few days later was a welcome change in energy, and felt very gentle and soothing to me (my own moon is in Cancer, so perhaps that had something to do with it). I did a nice ritual for the new moon incorporating all the elements (earth, water, fire, air and ether), and set some intentions for my last month here. Mostly just wishing for everything to go smooth with my move, which I have no doubt it will, and another little wish which is close to my heart, and I’m not ready to share at this point in time. 🙂

I feel more and more of a bond to both Mother Earth and the stars (and moon) lately, and have been enjoying connecting with nature, both in going for walks, but also doing more and more rituals around the cycles of nature (new and full moon etc.). I’m feeling drawn to work more with those elements in my own work, and will probably start doing some online workshops and rituals that you can all participate in. Once I get settled in Norway, I will be excited to resume my work again, and go much deeper than ever before. So much keeps unfolding for me, and I will share more of that with you once everything settles down a little.

Last Friday I wrapped up my yoga classes at The Yogi Tree here in Los Angeles, and so now I have a lot of free time on my hands. In between packing and getting ready, it is nice to have a little time to enjoy the California sun and I’ve been soaking up the sun every chance I get. Since I’ll have to get accustomed to colder weather pretty soon, it’s nice to have some lazy days in the sun before leaving. And of course, I’m getting some vitamin D and sun energy for the solar plexus chakra in the process. 🙂

Although I am writing this blog on July 3rd, but it will be posted on July 4th. Since it will also be my last July 4th celebration here in the US, I am hoping to make it a memorable one. I will attend a Kundalini yoga class in the morning, perhaps go to the beach, and hopefully catch some fireworks in the evening.

For those of you that are here in the US, I wish you a happy and safe July 4th. Enjoy some time off of work, a little fun in the sun, and I am looking forward to connecting with you all again very soon! The next time I write will probably be in Norway, so I will give you an update from there. And once there I will start working on creating a Norwegian version of my site too, for my Norwegian tribe. I found a free program that will let me do that quite easily, so my goal is to get that all done by the end of the year (don’t want to rush the deadline as it will be quite a time-consuming project).

But that’s it for now. Once again, Happy 4th, and take good care of yourself!

Love & light,

Waiting To Exhale

As I keep preparing for my move to Norway, I am taking a step back from my business ventures, as I feel that I really just need to slow down and take care of myself right now. Everything is moving forward smoothly, and I have secured an apartment in Oslo and got my residence permit already, but at the same time there are just so many emotions that are coming up for me right now, and I am realizing that I am just not in a frame of mind to be able to help anyone else at the moment.

Having said that though, I still want to keep in touch with everyone, so I will continue to blog about my experiences and share what is going on with me both before I leave and after I arrive in Norway, but probably I won’t be able to do much business-wise until next year, as I will also need time to acclimate to Norway once I get there.

I am recognizing the need for me to just be open to receiving as much healing as possible now, and allowing the reality of everything to settle in. So I am giving myself some space to heal and to just be right now. Also, I feel that not only am I making big transitions in my life physically, but I am also transforming on many levels internally, and I feel I just need to allow that to happen without interfering or doing too much.

I was reminded of the expression ‘waiting to exhale‘ the other day (which I guess was also the title of a movie from the 90’s, but I digress), and I felt that it perfectly encaptures how I feel right now. I guess it is impossible (at least for me, and probably highly sensitive souls in general) to not feel stressed about traveling or moving, and I am definitely feeling all of that, in addition to feeling the sadness of saying goodbye to my life here in Los Angeles, and the nerves associated with moving back and starting a new life.

As I am transforming my life and myself on all levels, I also feel that this will have a big impact on my work in the world and my business, which is another reason why I am taking a step back right now. I don’t know what this work will look like in the end, but to be honest I think there will be big changes there too, and I think it will go much deeper than what I have done so far. Which is good news for all of you, and I can’t wait to share it all once it begins to become clear, however, it is not the time for that yet, obviously.

So I am continuing to take walks, do yoga, meditate, journal, and going to the gym, essentially doing what I can to try to stay calm and taking care of myself, and to be honest, I don’t feel that I can really focus my attention on much else right now (except for packing and taking care of everything associated with the move, of course). I will be teaching a few more yoga classes until the end of the month, but that will be it for that.

I am honestly looking forward to just getting everything taken care of, and arriving in Norway. I really think I won’t be able to fully “exhale” until I am settled in my apartment there, so I am keeping my focus on that. 🙂

My therapist gave me a little task in my session with her last week, to take some time to write down all my accomplishments from my time here in Los Angeles, which has been 15 years after all, so quite a while. I did it, and it’s interesting once you get stuff down on paper like that, and how it makes you realize all the things that have done and learnt, and how much you have grown.

I came here to study music and take the vocal program at Musicians Institute initially, which I graduated from and learnt so much in the process. I also studied audio engineering and released my own album a few years later, before I shifted my focus more towards spiritual work and healing. Music is still something very important to me though, and one thing I would like to do once I get to Norway, is to record some meditation and healing mantra music. So look out for that from me at some point. 🙂

That’s it from me today, but like I said I will continue to blog and stay in touch with everyone, although it may not be on a set schedule like I have been doing. Up until now I have been posting a new blog every other Tuesday, but I may not stick to that schedule in the future (since it is already Wednesday this week and I am posting this today). But would love to hear from you guys too, so please stay in touch and let me know what you are up to.

Sending you all so much love!

Love & light,

The Power of Chakra-Balancing & Self-Love

Those of you who have been following my work for a while will know that self-love and chakra-balancing form the corner stone of my work. I truly believe that they can be life-changing when we work deeply and apply these two concepts in our life. My own life and experiences are a testimony to that and I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for these two spiritual practices in particular.

It is my belief that love is the most powerful force in the universe, and is the foundation on which life is built. Our society in general may not necessarily believe that though, and so unless we are lucky enough to be taught to connect with that love, we often feel cut off from it. For that reason I think one of the most important things we can do in life for our own growth and happiness, is to connect with the love force that is within each and every one of us. The best way to get started with that, in my opinion, is to cultivate self-love.

When are able to love ourselves more, and understand that we are worthy of all the things our heart desires, that is when we can begin to attract all those things into our lives. This is also where our chakras come in…

Our heart chakra is located in the center of our chest, and is the chakra that is connected to the universal love-force. It’s basically our middle chakra where both the masculine and feminine, as well as the physical and spiritual energies converge. Most chakra systems will teach you that the base or root chakra is the foundation for all the other chakras, but I personally feel that it is the heart chakra that is the foundation. If we can start out from a place of love, and particularly love for ourselves, it becomes that much easier to connect to and balance all the other chakras.

Gaining an understanding of your own energy centers, or chakras, is invaluable on your path of self-discovery and healing on all levels, stepping into the your own power and magic, so that you can experience miracles in your life. This may seem a little far-fetched, and may be hard to believe if your life isn’t exactly going the way you want to at the moment. And of course, it doesn’t mean that life doesn’t still have its challenges and hardship, that is part of the world we live in. Yet, I still have seen and experienced first-hand, that once you truly begin to love yourself and commit to your own spiritual growth through deep, energetic work, your dreams really do begin to come true.

The chakras are particularly helpful tools in that they represent various psycho-spiritual aspects of ourselves, and are also closely linked with our physical body. When we begin to understand how our energy centers operate and look at where are we experiencing issues, whether they are of a physical, emotional, mental or spiritual nature, we are in a much better position to be able to heal ourselves. Through the chakras we can learn to trust in the abundance of mother nature (base chakra), let go of our resistance and allow things to flow into our lives (sacral chakra), take inspired action towards our goal and stay disciplined (solar plexus chakra), connect with love and heal our relationships through gratitude and forgiveness of ourselves and others (heart chakra), express our own authentic self and our creativity (throat chakra), listen to our intuition and follow our inner guidance (third eye chakra) and expand our awareness and connect with Divine Source (crown chakra). When all these areas of your life are balanced and healed, you can only imagine the power you will have to create the life that you want!

Saying yes to yourself, and deciding that you are worth it, realizing that you are here for a reason and have something beautiful to offer the world, is all that it takes (and of course the ongoing commitment to seeing it through, as nothing is done overnight). 🙂 But if you are committed to your own spiritual growth and want to experience more joy, peace and prosperity in your life, what have you got to lose…?

And if you feel called to explore your chakras deeper with me in my live group coaching program, Expand & Elevate Your Chakras, that kicks off next week, I would love to have you. The deadline to sign up is by midnight this Friday, May 26, so make sure you click the link to sign up as soon as possible, so that you don’t miss out, as it may be a while before I will offer this program again. 🙂

Oh, and I’m offering some fabulous bonuses too: 

  • For the first 5 people to respond: A 60-minute one-on-one intention setting session with me ($97 value)
  • Set of chakra balancing crystals ($15 value)

If you have questions about the program after clicking the link, feel free to contact me and I will be happy to answer all your questions. With the favorable energies out there (new moon in Gemini!), and all the forward momentum we are experiencing right now, perhaps now is the time to take that step and bring your life to the next level. I would be honored to guide you there, should you choose to work with me at this time!

Either way, I hope you have a wonderful day, and until next time…

Love & light,

Trust & Surrender…

In my last blog post, I wrote about how to deal with big changes in our lives. This year has been, and continues to be, one of great change for me, and I wanted to continue talking about that in this blog installment. I feel that a lot of us are going through both big and small transformations at this time, so I hope that my story can bring some hope and inspiration to others out there that may be experiencing this too.

To be honest, I have been pretty quiet about what all this change entails for me so far, but have now decided to open up about it. It feels a little bit scary, but it also feels liberating and I know that it is something I need to do.

So here goes…

I had a major spiritual awakening at the beginning of this year, although at first I didn’t realize that’s what was going on. It started out as though some kind of cloud came over my life, feeling as if I was in a cocoon, and for some reason I felt inexplicably drawn to my home country of Norway. I started digging out old letters and diaries that I kept at that time, and at one point I thought I was going through a mid-life crisis :), although as time passed, I realized that there was something deeper going on.

When big transformation occurs, whether it is of a spiritual nature or not, it is never easy, and this was no exception. There is a reason why it is often referred to as “the dark hour of the soul“, and I have to say I like that particular description. Society in general often see it differently, and would like to label it depression and anxiety, or as I mentioned already, “mid-life crisis“, however, to me that doesn’t fully describe what is going on. Although, in some ways those things were all a part of it. But to me “dark hour of the soul” captures the essence of it a lot better.

But back to my story…

I went through a particularly dark couple of weeks, and it isn’t the first time that I have dealt with these things and experienced a dark hour of the soul, so part of me knew what to expect. It doesn’t make it any easier, but at least I knew that there would be an end to it, and that once I was on the other side, I would be the better for it. Although when you are overwhelmed with pain, it isn’t much you can do but just take it one day at a time, and try to take care of yourself the best way you can.

I went for long walks, prayed, meditated and journaled, and spent long hours on the phone with my friends and family. In the midst of all of this though, there were some things that were different. I began to have some spiritual experiences. One day, in the middle of teaching yoga, this feeling of profound peace came over me. This happened during what was probably my darkest day, and somehow lifted me out of the darkness and I felt hope and peace once again, knowing that everything would be ok.

That wasn’t the end of it, though, and the following week I had an experience when my heart chakra was blasted wide open, and I felt this deep love for everyone and everything. I also had an out-of-body experience where I met with some of my guides, and then finally I received a spiritual download that made everything very clear… I was shown that before I came into this life I had taken on an important spiritual mission to help people awaken during this time that we are now in. There was a group of souls that had this mission, and we were all scattered throughout earth. However, I was shown that my mission would be based in Norway, and it made sense why I had felt so drawn there, and I realized that I needed to go back.

And so since then, I have little by little prepared myself to move back to Norway, where I haven’t lived for over 20 years. But I am excited about it, and I feel ready. Having said that though, it’s not like it is so simple to just pack up and leave. For various reasons I had to give up my Norwegian citizenship after I came to the United States, so I have had to apply for a residence permit to go back. And it’s not like I won’t miss Los Angeles, this place that I have called home for the past 15 years, and the friends I have made here. Perhaps one of the most difficult parts is that this also means the end of my marriage.

But life goes on, and although I am feeling the grief and pain of what I am losing, I am also feeling so much anticipation and exhilaration for what is around the corner for me, and a little fear too, of course. But I trust and surrender it all to Spirit, knowing that I will be taken care of. And I can’t wait to be closer to my family and catch up with friends and loved ones I haven’t seen in a long time. I am also planning to go back to university and study psychology this fall, something I have been wanting to do for a long time, and I’m excited about that too, even though it’s going to be a lot of work. But that’s ok. 🙂

This means that I will be moving permanently back to Norway at the beginning of August (as long as everything goes as planned). But what is so great about the times we live in is that I will still be able to connect with all you via my blog, newsletter and social media pages, and I will still be able to work with clients here in the US. That is one of the reasons why I love what I do.

But before this post turns into a book, I better wrap it up. I want to leave you with one last thing. Throughout these past few months, my motto has become to trust and surrender, and doing everything from a place of love. It’s still not easy to be patient and trusting sometimes, but I believe it is one of the most important things we can learn. So if you are going through transformation and big (or even small) changes in your life, remember to trust and surrender it all to Spirit, and you will be taken care of.

Love & light,

How To Deal With Change

If there is something we can rely on in life, it is that change will always come.

Life really is in a constant ebb and flow, and we are always growing. However, there are times when the universe asks us to take a giant leap, often without any forewarning. And that isn’t always easy. Although I do believe that change can be a positive thing as long as we are open to that, we don’t always see this right away.

So how do we deal with change when it seems to be thrust at us seemingly out of nowhere? Change can be the loss of a job, moving to a new place, a breakup, or a myriad other things. It usually does involve some kind of loss, though, and for that reason I believe it is important that we acknowledge that and recognize our need to feel that loss and allow ourselves time to grieve.

We need to let go of the old before we can embrace the new, and that can take some time. Being patient with ourselves and allowing ourselves the time we need to heal is important, but perhaps one of the biggest challenges of all. Change can be painful, and it is in our nature to resist it. Most of us don’t want to be in pain, yet growth often hurts, and is perhaps even necessary so that we can really appreciate the beauty on the other side. It is a fact in the world of contrast that we all live in.

When change happens we need to allow for the time it takes to emerge on the other side. Having said that, there are certainly things we can do to make it easier on ourselves.

Taking care of ourselves on all levels is important, and although we may feel like burying a hole in the ground and hide there until everything is over, that is usually not an option. 🙂 Instead we need to slow down as much as we are able to and do whatever we feel we need at any given time. This could be to go for a walk, do some meditation, exercise or perhaps call a friend for some uplifting conversation. All those things are great, and we should make use of all of them at some point.

When we are going through change and challenges in life, taking care of ourselves is sometimes the last thing on our minds, but it becomes even more important during this time. This includes both physically, mentally/emotionally and spiritually. As much as possible, try to eat healthy and get some exercise, see a therapist, attend a support group or talk to good friends, and keep up your spiritual practice (or start one if you don’t already have one).

During change it is time to go inwards and reflect on what has been, what you want to release and let go of, and what you want to embrace and bring in more of. Meditation and prayer can be very helpful when we feel stuck and in despair.

All these things can be comforting and help move you forward, but nothing is ever going to take away the pain completely, expect seeing it through. It is a process and it takes the time it takes. Sometimes the greatest comfort is just knowing that it is temporary, and that all will be well in the end (and if you don’t feel that it is well yet, that means it is still not the end).

There is a beautiful poem by a Swedish writer, Karin Boye, that I wanted to share with you. I found this English translation of it online, and I feel that it beautifully depicts the process of change, transformation and grief. I hope you enjoy it too!

Of Course It Hurts

Of course it hurts when buds burst.
Otherwise why would spring hesitate?
Why would all our fervent longing
be bound in the frozen bitter haze?
The bud was the casing all winter.
What is this new thing, which consumes and bursts?
Of course it hurts when buds burst,
pain for that which grows
        and for that which envelops.
Of course it is hard when drops fall.
Trembling with fear they hang heavy,
clammer on the branch, swell and slide –
the weight pulls them down, how they cling.
Hard to be uncertain, afraid and divided,
hard to feel the deep pulling and calling,
yet sit there and just quiver –
hard to want to stay
        and to want to fall.
Then, at the point of agony and when all is beyond help,
the tree’s buds burst as if in jubilation,
then, when fear no longer exists,
the branch’s drops tumble in a shimmer,
forgetting that they were afraid of the new,
forgetting that they were fearful of the journey –
feeling for a second their greatest security,
resting in the trust
        that creates the world.

So if you, like me, are going through some changes in your life right now, I hope you are able to take care of yourself, and take comfort in the fact that this is a temporary phase that will, once you pull through, take you to new, great heights!

And if you feel that you could use a little help and support in your life right now, I would like to invite you to join in my free online experience, The Chakra Challenge, a 7-day mini-course which kicks off on May 1st, with daily emails and lessons on the chakras, helping you to balance and heal so that you can experience more joy, peace and love in your life.

You can sign up here, and get on the list to receive the daily emails. Feel free to ask if you have any questions about it, but all the information should be in the link. I would love to see you there!

That’s if from me today, but take care and until next time, sending you so much…

Love & light,

Do You Detox? (+ A Full Moon Release Exercise)

Some of you who have been following me for a while will know that I am enthusiastic about the teachings of Ayurveda. As I am an avid yogi and Kundalini Yoga teacher that may not come as much of a surprise, since Ayurveda is considered the sister science of yoga. I am not an Ayurvedic practitioner by any means, and most of what I have learnt about Ayurveda is through reading books and doing some basic online courses, and of course, trying out and experimenting with some of the teachings myself.

Aside from doing a daily abhyanga self-massage (one of my favorite things that Ayurveda recommends, and is a great way to cultivate self-love), I also like to do seasonal cleanses. Ayurveda recommends doing a detox in the Spring and in the Fall, in order to rejuvenate your body and mind for a new season, giving your digestion a rest and tune-up, and take some time to slow down, reflect and renew yourself on all levels.

One of the things I love about an Ayurvedic detox, is that it isn’t just about cleansing ourselves from toxins and purifying the physical body. It is just as much about going inwards and taking stock of where we are at, slowing down, reflecting and meditating, as we look at what changes we want to make in our lives coming out of the detox. What do we want to let go of, and what new things do we want to bring into our lives?

I have been doing a seasonal Ayurvedic detox for about 3 years now, but with this particular one, I decided to go a lot deeper than normal. I signed up for an online program that helps and supports you through the detox, and also gives lots of suggestions on how you can design your own detox program. In the past I have always followed the traditional Ayurvedic way of eating a mono diet of kichari for 7 days (kichari is basically an easily digestible meal made from mung dal and basmati rice, with vegetables mixed in). I would eat this for breakfast, lunch and dinner, drink some detox tea, and do lots of yoga and meditation. I have been doing that to some degree this time also, but have also been incorporating green smoothies, and raw, living soups, which I found were great additions to my usual program.

The online program that I am following is also 3 weeks long, where you take the first week to ease into the detox, as well as take another week on the other end of the cleanse, to emerge and ease your way out of it. I found that this really helps to make the entire detox go much deeper.

Since I had the luxury this time of not too many outside obligations keeping me occupied, it seemed like a great time to really take some time to release on all levels, as I move into a new phase in my life. If you haven’t done a detox before, I highly recommend you explore it! It is a great way to recharge and reset your body, mind and spirit.

Of course, you don’t have to do a full detox to do emotional release work, and today being the full moon, it is the perfect time to release any old patterns and ways of being, to step into a new and more empowered version of yourself.

These last couple of full moons seem to have been some highly charged and emotional ones for me, and has really brought up some stuff that needs clearing.

For this particular full moon, I came up with an exercise to release any habits, patterns and old ways of being in relationships. This can of course apply to any relationships, but I chose to focus on romantic relationships in particular. So I went back to my very first relationship in my teens, and continued through every relationship I have had since, looking at all the dysfunctional patterns in each one that I no longer want to carry with me. Of course, many of them I have already released, but I figured it couldn’t hurt to look at it all again, and see if I couldn’t find some things that may still need some work.

I have my list completed now of all the things that I want to release and let go of so that at least these particular issues won’t cloud any of my relationships for the future. As the full moon rise tonight I will make a ritual of reading them all out loud and make a commitment to release them from my body, my mind and my soul, so that I can welcome in happier, more fulfilling and loving relationships in the future. Then I will destroy the list, so that the old energy can be released and make room for the new.

I hope you will try this too! I think it will make for a powerful full moon experience. No matter what you do this full moon, though, I hope you take care of yourself, and show yourself lots of love, not letting the emotions take over, but release them with love and grace.

Love & light,

PS. If you do the release exercise, please share with me what your experience was like for you! And if you have any questions about it or need support, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I always love to interact with my tribe and come up with ways to be helpful and supportive to you.

Are You Being Seen?

Once again we are at a new moon, the first new moon in the astrological year of 2017, that just began with the spring equinox. This new moon is in Aries, and is the most powerful new moon of the year. It is a great time right now to set or refine your intentions for the rest of the year and beyond, and also take some powerful action towards it. I have already done just that for myself, and can’t wait to see it all unfold! I hope you will do the same.

However, the topic of today’s blog isn’t really about the new moon. I wanted to talk about something that one my own coaches and mentors brought up recently, the issue of being seen.

The way I see it, there are two things that can be a challenge when it comes to being seen in the world and accepted for who you are.

First of all it is important that you surround yourself with people that see you and love you for who you truly are, not who they may want you to be. If most of your friends and family don’t honor you in this way, it may be time to do some housecleaning. That isn’t an easy thing to do, and of course there will always be some people around you who will not be as supportive and understanding of you as you’d like. For that reason it is important to be careful who you bring into your life, especially in your most intimate relationships.

And this brings me to the second challenge of being seen, and that is, are you allowing people to see you? Sometimes the people closest to us may see our potentials, but we may not be able to see them ourselves. This goes back to issues of self-worth, which we sensitives, empaths and old souls seem to have in abundance (issues with self-worth that is, not abundance of self-worth, unfortunately). We tend to be hiding our greatness behind a million excuses of why we are not good enough and why we don’t have what it takes to live the life that we desire, and to be who we deep down truly are.

It is easy to hide our light, but much harder to let it shine and step into the light of our own power. Most of us are taught to hide it, as we are not supposed to think that we are special or important, but the truth is that we all are. We are all completely unique and amazing human beings with a great set of talents and knowledge that we can use to make the world a better place, if we will just allow those parts of ourselves to be seen. But more often than not, we let society, or well-meaning (and not so well-meaning) people talk us out of doing the things we want to do, or being who we want to be deep down in our soul.

There is a reason why we have deep desires in our soul, and that is because we are meant to have them. And if some of our desires don’t come to pass, that is because there is something even greater for us out there. Trust this and believe that you have greatness in you, and if you have not allowed the world to see it yet, then it is time to do so!

So perhaps this new moon you may want to reflect on how you are shining your light in the world, and if you are allowing other people to really see it. And if you are not, what can you do to shine brighter, and express your authentic self to the world?

This will undoubtedly bring up some fear, as that always happens when we stretch and grow as human beings. Don’t let the fear stop you, though. It is only there to tell you that you are on the right track. Because if something wasn’t important to you, you wouldn’t feel so strongly about it. So feel the fear, but do it anyway. Don’t rob the world of your light, because it is so needed!

I invite you in the next couple of days as the energy of the new moon is still strong, to set some strong intentions and then take one powerful action towards it! And if you feel up to it, why not share it with me, so that we can support each other. When we step up and speak our truth and our desires boldly, you may be surprised at the way the universe and other people show up to support you. If the universe wants us to be happy, then who are we to negate it. 🙂

The world needs you and your unique light, so shine on!

Love & light,

Emotional Release + Self Healing (For The Full Moon & Beyond)

We had a full moon in Virgo this past Sunday, and I don’t know about you, but I was definitely feeling it. This particular full moon was in the earth sign of Virgo, and is all about self-healing.

During the full moon it is always a good time to release what no longer serves us, and this full moon was no different, except it appeared to be happening automatically this time, even without me focusing my intention on it. 🙂 So if you were feeling a little more emotional than usual this weekend, know that you were not alone.

What’s important to remember when our emotions get the best of us, is to trust and not fight what we are feeling. Allow whatever is coming up to just be and sit with it. Forcing ourselves to feel good when we don’t, doesn’t serve us or anyone else. And this doesn’t just apply to emotions around the full moon, but for any time we feel emotional for any reasons, including (and perhaps especially) grief.

This doesn’t mean we should just rage and take our emotions out on other people, though. But I believe it is possible to feel emotional, and just allowing it to be, without it having to affect other people (as long as those people around you can be understanding of that and give you the space you need). And when we allow ourselves to feel fully, letting all the emotions come up, that is when we can release them. The emotional pain will just go away on their own, when the process is complete.

This process works well for whenever emotions come over us seemingly out of nowhere, but sometimes there are emotions that are stuck deep, and may need a little extra work and attention to be released. Below are some suggestions on how to do that.

  1. Meditation

A regular meditation practice is one of the best ways I know to connect with our inner guidance, help restore harmony and equilibrium in our body and mind, and get in touch with our emotions and unresolved feelings. When we meditate regularly we are able to connect with the still point inside of us, a neutral place of calm where we are able to observe our lives without getting wrapped up in the emotional aspects of it all. Connecting with this still point will help you to release the emotions you want to release, allowing them to flow through you without letting them overwhelm you.

2. Breathwork

Breathing exercises are a very powerful, yet simple way to bring up and release emotions. Whenever you feel tension anywhere in your body (it can be in your neck and shoulder area, which is a very common place for unresolved emotions to be stored, or other areas such as the chest or solar plexus), breathe into that tension with a long deep inhale, and release it on your exhale. As you keep breathing into the tension, begin to ask yourself what may be causing the tension, and see what comes up. Don’t judge what comes to you, just allow it to flow up and out through your breath. If tears come up, allow them to flow too, as tears are a natural way for our body to cleanse and release emotional pain.

3. Movement 

A third way to release emotions, is through some kind of movement. This could be from regular exercise such as strength training or running, dance, yoga, or any other way you can think of to move your body. Emotions are energy, and when we move our body, it creates energy, that helps to move and dislodge emotions that may be stuck in our body and mind. In order to keep mental and emotionally healthy, it is a good idea to get some kind of regular movement into your routine. The mind and the body are intimately connected, and what affects one, affects the other. So moving our bodies helps to move and release emotions as well.

4. Self-Care & Healing

Whenever you are doing any kind of emotional release work, it is important to be gentle with yourself, and not overdo it. Only do what you feel you can handle at any given time, and take good care of yourself. Pay attention to your needs, and make sure you give yourself whatever you feel can help you in your healing process. This can be anything from support and a healing conversation with a friend, a hot bath in epsom salts, a massage, or anything else that feels soothing and relaxing to you. You can also aid your healing with crystals and essential oils and listen to soothing music.

5. Journaling

When you are working through emotional release and grief, it may be helpful to journal about your experiences and what comes up for you, to help give you perspective and process your emotions even deeper. Journaling is a great way to pay even closer attention to your thoughts and feelings, and even help bring them to the surface in the first place, so that you can then use any of the previous methods to let them go.

I hope these suggestions are helpful in giving you some ways to release stagnant energies and emotions from this full moon and beyond. Give them a try, and let me know how it goes by posting in the comments. And if you have any questions about any of it, feel free to post them as well.

Take care for now, and until next time…

Love & light,

Setting Boundaries And Saying No For Empaths

This particular blog post has been a long time coming, and it finally seems to be the right time for it. It is on a topic that many empaths and sensitives struggle with, and I have certainly had trouble with it from time to time too, so I can relate. 🙂

Setting boundaries and saying no is not always an easy thing. As empaths and sensitives we tend to be natural healers and nurturers, and want to help people as much as we can. We have big hearts, and when we come across someone else who needs help, our automatic response is to reach out and do what we can to help this person out.

There is nothing wrong with helping other people out when they need it, of course, and having a compassionate heart is a beautiful thing, and something to be appreciated. But when helping others means putting other people’s needs before our own, that is when problems arise, and we empaths and sensitives are notorious for that.

So the question is how to find the balance between following our heart and helping others, but also take care of our own energy and boundaries in the process. Here are some suggestions:

Grounding & Protection

This first one is the foundation for everything else, and is something an empath and sensitive would benefit from doing on a regular basis. Grounding and protection exercises can look different from person to person, but they may include things like going for a walk in nature, walking barefoot in the grass, standing with your feet firmly planted on the ground and visualize roots growing from your feet down into the center of the earth. Crystals such as black tourmaline, amethyst, black obsidian or my new personal favorite, shungite (which is pictured to the left) are good, as well as essential oils like patchouli, vetiver or any tree oils. Salt baths are also grounding, and help release any outside energies from your body.

Balance & Self-Care

Try to live as balanced of a life-style as possible, getting enough sleep, taking in nourishing and healthy foods and supplements, doing some type of exercise and pursue a regular spiritual practice. Kundalini yoga and meditation are my go-to’s for that, but do what feels good to you. I would highly recommend to at least try to get in some daily meditation, as there is nothing like meditation to help calm down an agitated mind and release stress. Also, make sure you take time out for yourself whenever you need it, to restore yourself and regain your equilibrium.

Organization & Decluttering

There is truth to the saying that a cluttered room is a cluttered mind, and the more you can do to stay organized in your life, the better it is for your assertiveness skills. Just like meditation helps to calm your mind, being organized and keeping your surroundings as uncluttered as possible, will do the same. When your mind is calm, you feel more confident and will find it easier to keep your boundaries strong. This also applies to the influx of information in your life, such as your email inbox, and social media. It may be a good idea to clear out unwanted email subscriptions, and take a break from social media every once in a while.

Eliminate Negativity

The more you can surround yourself with positive and uplifting messages and people, the better. This may mean limiting interactions with negative people as much as you can, and also limit how much you watch the news, violent movies and other things that bring you down. It is impossible to stay away from negativity completely, of course, but if you can cut it down to a point where you are able to feel mostly positive, then that will also help your ability to say no and be assertive.

Practice Boundary-Inducing Statements

The previous suggestions are mostly things that indirectly will affect your ability to set boundaries and say no, so this last one is perhaps the most important one that you can do to really help you directly. Practice voicing your needs to other people, asking for help when you need it, and letting them know when something is not ok. You can also practice saying statements to yourself such as, “I am aware of other people’s energies, but I do not absorb them“. Finally, before making a firm commitment with anyone, get into a regular habit of saying something like “let me check my schedule and get back to you“. That way you have some time to think about whether it is something you really want to do, before giving your final answer.

Remember that establishing boundaries and saying no is an ongoing practice and as with anything else, it takes time to get good at it. I hope you try out some of these tips, though, and feel free to share your experiences. Also, if you have any other tips to add, I would love for you to post them in the comments.

Until next time, have a great week, and good luck practicing your boundary-setting.

Love & light,

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Today is Valentine’s Day, and for those of you who recently participated in my Awaken To Self-Love Experience, will know that I am a proponent of self-love first, as I believe that to really experience love to its fullest, in all its forms, it all begins with self-love.

This is not a selfish love, but just about making a point of taking care of and loving ourselves, so that we can have that much more to offer others. This can be done in a multitude of ways, and I believe that each person needs to follow their own guidance in finding out what that looks like for them.

Self-love can be something as small as asking for help from others when you need it, giving yourself a footrub (or ask your significant other to do so), or scheduling a massage for yourself. So this Valentine’s Day, whether you are in a relationship or not, I encourage you to do something loving for yourself, too.

Personally, I booked a facial + healing for the day, and a massage for later in the week, so this week will be heavy on the self-care for me. It is much needed after all the work I have been doing lately, and I will enjoy the heck out of it, not feeling one ounce of guilt. 🙂

Which brings me to my next point. As empaths and sensitives (and women too) we tend to be very good at taking care of others all the time, and not leave a lot of time for ourselves. We wear ourselves thin working long hours, taking care of kids and family, and at the end of the day we are too tired to even think about what we need for ourselves.

I believe that this needs to stop. I mean, I get that some of us don’t have a choice, as we need money to pay the bills, and of course, we have to take care of our families. However, when all that comes to the detriment of our own happiness, health and wellbeing, that is not a good thing.

So the question is, how can we make time for more self-love and self-care in our lives when we are already so busy? I believe in starting small. Once we realize we need to prioritize our self-care, we can make little changes, one at a time. Perhaps we can ask for more help from our family or friends, when we need it. And setting aside a little time for ourselves each day, to do something loving for ourselves, whether it is to meditate, just stopping to take a few deep breaths, or take a hot bath, that is something we can all do.

If you are one of those who have been feeling overwhelmed, stressed and burnt out lately, I encourage you to start thinking about how you can incorporate more self-love and self-care into your schedule for this Valentine’s Day and beyond. Set reminders for yourself, so that you can get into a regular routine and won’t forget. Even though I have my own self-care routine that I practice every day, I still put it on my calendar, and check it off every day, as I would any other task. This helps me to keep prioritizing self-care as part of my regular schedule, just as important as my work and other tasks.

And so for this Valentine’s Day, I want to share with you a self-love meditation that I created recently for my Awaken To Self-Love Experience (you who participated in the Experience will have already seen it, but it doesn’t hurt to do it again). I hope you enjoy it, and allow it to connect you to the flow of love within you (and you can use it as your self-care tool for the day, if you want).

So with that I want to wish you a very happy Valentine’s Day, and I hope you enjoy the day, and make use of the opportunity to connect to the love within you.

Much love & light,